Analysis of Doc Love’s System – Dating Dictionary

Doc Love (including Thomas Hodges) is an internationally renowned dating and relationship trainer for men. His knowledge and wisdom comes from having interviewed over 10,000 women over the past 35 years and asking basic questions about why one woman chooses to leave one guy and stay with another. He has also interviewed several men who are ‘naturals’ in this area and never have trouble getting and keeping women.

Doc Love’s thorough analysis of information gathered from his interviews has culminated in 4 volumes of the work:


THE SYSTEM – DATING DICTIONARY is the basic course that sets the foundation for everything else. Once the student (whom Doc Love refers to as ‘Spartan-In-Training’) completely internalizes it, he can advance to the advanced Mastery Series.

THE SYSTEM – DATING DICTIONARY covers some specific concepts and ingredients involved in the dynamics of any relationship. Some of them are as follows:

Interest Level: Just as placement is everything in the real estate industry, a woman’s level of interest is everything in the dating game. Interest level (in short, IL) basically refers to how strongly she is attracted to you.

When her IL is high, she does everything for you, does something to make you happy and always finds a reason to be with you. On the other hand, when her IL is low, she starts to make some interesting excuses to avoid being with you. Interest level is a dynamic factor and the man’s actions will determine whether it rises or falls.

Challenge = How hard it is for the woman to win you over. If you’re just looking for an attractive woman, you’re a zero challenge for her because she doesn’t have to do anything to win you! Instead, if you set your standards higher and expect not only physical attractiveness, but also proper respectful behavior, honesty, integrity and a flexible attitude, she has to work much harder to win you over. In the latter case, you show more challenge.

Confidence: This has two subcomponents – Self Confidence and Self Confidence.

Self-confidence = How strongly you believe in yourself. While it’s possible to ‘fake it until you make it’, real confidence comes from product knowledge of life in general and women in particular ….. and your demonstrated ability to use the same.

Confidence = How much you value yourself. This is where it’s important to say no to a woman from time to time, especially when you know she is asking for something that can compromise your integrity. Women often do this to test you! But if you hold the ground on such occasions, her IL rises. On the other hand, if you give in, her IL will fall.

Control: This has three components – Patience, Self-Discipline, and Self-Control (note that it does not refer to controlling the woman, which is actually impossible!)

The 3 Cs mentioned above – Challenge, Confidence and Control – are the masculine steel features that raise a woman’s level of interest. A man must practice all of them to raise the woman’s level of interest. If her level of interest falls, it is very likely that he will miss at least one of the 3 C’s.

When a woman’s interest level rises above 95%, you never go wrong in her eyes! And this is where you need to be in order to have a happy relationship. However, there is also a set of masculine velvet suits that you need to practice to keep her level of interest high. These are: affection, respect, romance and humor.

If you fail to practice these velvet suits, her level of interest drops.

Doc Love’s SYSTEM – DICTIONARY DICTIONARY focuses more on long-term relationships than short-term slings. And to have a happy, lasting relationship, Doc Love teaches you that apart from measuring a woman’s level of interest, you also need to measure her attitude.

To be more precise, you date her level of interest, but you marry her attitude.

As for a woman’s attitude, she needs the following non-negotiable instruments:

  • She has to be self-reliant
  • She must have a high degree of confidence
  • She must have a flexible character
  • She must be a giver
  • She must have integrity, which in turn consists of loyalty, honesty and reliability.

Note that it is possible for a woman to have a very high level of interest in you; but if she has a lousy attitude, she will only end up lowering your level of interest for her in the long run. And this can make you miserable, especially if you are stuck in a loveless marriage.

Doc Love’s SYSTEM – DATING DICTIONARY also teaches you that once a woman’s IL is below 50%, it can never be brought back. So the relationship is over for all practical purposes. However, while most men leave a relationship when their IL falls below 50%, women usually wait until their IL falls below 40%, due to their nest nature.

And it may take a long time …. possibly more than 10-20 years before this happens (ie her interest level drops from 49% to 39%). But during this period, you have almost zero chance of reviving her attraction to you. The relationship turns into a corner kick, and yes, you will have to cope with her incessant nagging, quarreling, temper tantrum and disrespectful behavior in general.

But when it reaches below 40%, she has already built up enough anger and hatred towards you that offsets the nesting factor … and consequently, she becomes extremely evil! This is when you hear about many men falsely accused of rape, abuse or domestic violence and being sent to jail on false charges! I’m sure you may have found at least one male friend of yours who has gone through this nasty ordeal. Quite a scary thing, huh ?!

So, if you want to avoid visiting a vicious anti-male family law; or shelling off trucks of cash for divorce attorneys; or losing your hard-earned money and house to an evil ex-wife; or lose custody of your children; Or losing your health in general, you definitely need to be equipped with superior knowledge of women and dating.