For many people, it is much easier to know what to do to feel healthier and happier in their lives than it actually comes with it.
I’m sure you’ve experienced times in your life, or maybe even the moment you set a goal, make a decision, devise an action plan for your desires for yourself personally and / or professionally, and then before you know it that you are left to just think about it or it becomes a passing thought.
Maybe your goal is to lose weight, be or eat healthier, be happier, walk or exercise more, make a specific quota, go on more sales calls, get projects completed, overcome a fear, spend more time with family or friends or tackle your to-do list etc.
You can even start with your target just like you are out of the runner’s mark before the gun is even fired. You have a plan and this time you stick to it, right?
So before you know it, your momentum is slowing down and then you stop working towards the goal you said you originally wanted.
The part of yourself I call “Victim Thinking” has entered the building, which in this case would be your thoughts.
It’s the voice that says tomorrow that you want to start, or talk out of what your plans are, or make excuses, or at some level actually create an event to stop or sit back, or do a non-believer out of the believer in you.
This voice may be conscious or unconscious. If you do not succeed in your goal, you can bet that the victim’s thinking lurks in your mind and makes other things more important than you, your happiness and well-being.
So how do you remain committed to living a healthier and happier life when that little voice you may or may not hear is trying to sabotage your results?
Become aware of your thoughts and / or excuses that are holding you back or getting in the way. When you are aware of what is stopping you, it will be easier to work with thoughts instead of thoughts working against you.
If you have set a goal or devised an action plan against something and if you do not go along with it, or something or someone (being you) gets in the way, it is time to summon the reinforcements and become responsible. Not just once in awhile, but often.
Choose someone in your family, or a friend, or a coach, mentor, or counselor to help keep you on track and hold you accountable for what you say is what you are working toward.
You are more suited to sticking to your goals when someone holds you accountable to them and cheering you on when you need to.
Set a date you want to start and not next month or year.
Create an action plan. What steps do you need to take to accomplish what you want?
Be reasonable about the actions you want to take. Remember, Rome was not built in a day. When you succeed in the small steps towards your desired results, it is much easier to believe that it is possible now to take and succeed with the bigger ones.
Know when you or someone else needs to challenge you more, as you may become inactive in your thinking and way of doing things and may need to take steps to get moving again.
Congratulate yourself whether you are taking big or small steps. Some goals are harder than others and take time and persistence. Recognize your growth, commitment and hard work.
Don’t beat yourself if it takes you longer than you thought, or if you start and then stop and then start again. What is important is that you get back to it.
Old habits and mind sets are hard to break, but that doesn’t mean it’s impossible.
Do not rush from one goal straight to the next. Take time to enjoy the progress you have made and to make sure your next goals are aligned with where you are now. What is really important to your continued growth, health and happiness?
The attempts you make are never unsuccessful if you learn what is not working and then remain obliged to discover what is doing.
“When it is obvious, the goals cannot be reached, the targets not adjusted, the action steps adjusted.” Confucius.
Remember, don’t give up; try, try again. You can do it!
Using these techniques with insight will help you not only keep you on track with your goals, but make sure they are in tune with you and your vision.